Hey, I have a GF almost a year so she has problems in her family. Dad's beats her,takes her money, she doesn't have any euro left..
I adviced her to go in a hotel and live there i will help her with money etc. but she doesn't want because her dad will destroy the aparment like he did to her sister.
The only choice is to porpose to her.
What do you think?
Horrible idea. I get it you love her but proposing in this situation where she is mentally disturbed will put you in a position to become her entire source of happiness and if you cant keep that up for a lifetime, you'll end up being the bad guy and care taker syndrome. I suggest to wait till she can sort out her problems and leave on her own. Helping with money is not such a bad idea tho. If you really love her tho, help her in the ways that she will be self reliant for her happiness but you add to it and are a part of it but not her entire source. There is always a choice and speaking from experience on being on both sides of the coin, I can whole heartedly say if she doesnt make a choice, then she will be toxic for the rest of her life as well and then you will have to deal with it.
TLDR, help with money, dont propose until she and her life is stable
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OP07 July, 2022 - 01:07 PM(This post was last modified: 07 July, 2022 - 01:09 PM by pewdiepie.)
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(07 July, 2022 - 12:56 PM)CryptedBox Wrote: Show More
Horrible idea. I get it you love her but proposing in this situation where she is mentally disturbed will put you in a position to become her entire source of happiness and if you cant keep that up for a lifetime, you'll end up being the bad guy and care taker syndrome. I suggest to wait till she can sort out her problems and leave on her own. Helping with money is not such a bad idea tho. If you really love her tho, help her in the ways that she will be self reliant for her happiness but you add to it and are a part of it but not her entire source. There is always a choice and speaking from experience on being on both sides of the coin, I can whole heartedly say if she doesnt make a choice, then she will be toxic for the rest of her life as well and then you will have to deal with it.
TLDR, help with money, dont propose until she and her life is stable
the best advice.. Thanks..
She is toxic in the relationship and idk if she will be better...
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(07 July, 2022 - 01:07 PM)pewdiepie Wrote: Show More
(07 July, 2022 - 12:56 PM)CryptedBox Wrote: Show More
Horrible idea. I get it you love her but proposing in this situation where she is mentally disturbed will put you in a position to become her entire source of happiness and if you cant keep that up for a lifetime, you'll end up being the bad guy and care taker syndrome. I suggest to wait till she can sort out her problems and leave on her own. Helping with money is not such a bad idea tho. If you really love her tho, help her in the ways that she will be self reliant for her happiness but you add to it and are a part of it but not her entire source. There is always a choice and speaking from experience on being on both sides of the coin, I can whole heartedly say if she doesnt make a choice, then she will be toxic for the rest of her life as well and then you will have to deal with it.
TLDR, help with money, dont propose until she and her life is stable
the best advice.. Thanks..
She is toxic in the relationship and idk if she will be better...
This is a bump
I almost made the mistake of proposing myself. But if she is toxic and not willing to get out of it, then dont propose. But if you see potential in her and think you can hang on till she does get better and truly do love her, then hang on to the Relationship :)
MY ONLY DISCORD IS CryptedBox ALWAYS VERIFY VIA PM IF YOU ARE DEALING WITH ME OR A SCAMMER
(07 July, 2022 - 01:53 PM)CryptedBox Wrote: Show More
(07 July, 2022 - 01:07 PM)pewdiepie Wrote: Show More
(07 July, 2022 - 12:56 PM)CryptedBox Wrote: Show More
Horrible idea. I get it you love her but proposing in this situation where she is mentally disturbed will put you in a position to become her entire source of happiness and if you cant keep that up for a lifetime, you'll end up being the bad guy and care taker syndrome. I suggest to wait till she can sort out her problems and leave on her own. Helping with money is not such a bad idea tho. If you really love her tho, help her in the ways that she will be self reliant for her happiness but you add to it and are a part of it but not her entire source. There is always a choice and speaking from experience on being on both sides of the coin, I can whole heartedly say if she doesnt make a choice, then she will be toxic for the rest of her life as well and then you will have to deal with it.
TLDR, help with money, dont propose until she and her life is stable
the best advice.. Thanks..
She is toxic in the relationship and idk if she will be better...
This is a bump
I almost made the mistake of proposing myself. But if she is toxic and not willing to get out of it, then dont propose. But if you see potential in her and think you can hang on till she does get better and truly do love her, then hang on to the Relationship :)
Thanks for advice <3
I thought about proposing in October i want to see if toxicity goes away
